Talking to women is kind of scary, unless you know her. Guy will go out of their way to think up reasons why they didn't talk to the girl they saw wherever. They need to know what's going on between them before they risk going out of control and saying "hi".
They want to know they will be accepted before they talk to her. That's why guys are always looking for clues, for connections, for something they have in common with her.
If a guy sees a girl wearing a Led Zep shirt and they listen to Led then a series of thoughts will travel through their head. They will say things to themselves like this, "Does she really like them or did someone give her that shirt?" and "Is that her boyfriend's shirt?" and "What if she knows more about Led than me?"
In the end he'll talk himself out of it, and if he's waited all that time then it's a good thing he waited... because she can smell that air of desperation on you. She knows what you're up to and she doesn't like it. Knowing how to talk to any woman is super important.
Instead he should just go up to her, even if all he can do is ask for the time... At least you're giving yourself a chance!
-D
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
How to Dress to Attract Women
How to dress to attract women is a thought most guys will not face. They want to dress well and hope and also convince themselves that they dress well... all for the express purpose of attracting a mate or, in the very least, not scaring them off. If offered advice, in a neutral or positive way from a girl guys will often take the advice and blend it in with what they already think.
This means their style is a wash of all the pieces of advice they have not rejected over the years. Basically, it will be much the same as everyone else with a few slight adjustments. Those "little things" will be where they express themselves. Women, will notice those expressions and comment on them and they will adjust them accordingly.
That's all Nice Guy thinking....
And doomed to failure. Clothes are your first opportunity to advertise that you are different. This advertisement must come through loud and clear. Women notice right away how much you stand out by what you have on. Ever see the brightest red bird? That male gets to pick his girl. The less bright male birds have to pick up what's left, if they get anything at all.
Don't be the less bright bird... sure people will question you, occasionally when you're first starting out you will be laughed at. Just, one, continue to standout. And two, don't pick things because of what they represent to you, just pick them based on how they look together and how they stand out.
This means their style is a wash of all the pieces of advice they have not rejected over the years. Basically, it will be much the same as everyone else with a few slight adjustments. Those "little things" will be where they express themselves. Women, will notice those expressions and comment on them and they will adjust them accordingly.
That's all Nice Guy thinking....
And doomed to failure. Clothes are your first opportunity to advertise that you are different. This advertisement must come through loud and clear. Women notice right away how much you stand out by what you have on. Ever see the brightest red bird? That male gets to pick his girl. The less bright male birds have to pick up what's left, if they get anything at all.
Don't be the less bright bird... sure people will question you, occasionally when you're first starting out you will be laughed at. Just, one, continue to standout. And two, don't pick things because of what they represent to you, just pick them based on how they look together and how they stand out.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
How to Convince Women Not to Date You or Even Think About You Much
There is always alot of debate about how to do anything with women. Here's a quick fire way to be considered boring and nice. The two worst things you can be with a woman. How to Women is my way to get out general information that guys can use to help their relationships with women, but this post is not about that. This post is about how you can do the opposite.
Winning over women is a typical question posed by guys who know a woman they would like to win over.
They already know her and would mainly like to turn a friendship or acquaintance into a real and actual relationship. This is always tricky because she might not have been thinking of you that way until you indicate it and so she will surely have to think about what you're telling her. After all, this is her whole life you two are talking about.
But to win a woman over you have to like what she likes. Strike up conversation about travel, music, dreams, hopes, and great tried and untried restaurants. Avoid things like politics, religion (unless you know she's the same as you) and anything else that could turn into a negative conversation.
When talking to her, keep her comfortable by turning your body away from her slightly so you're not "in her space" and don't ever make physical contact until she let's you know it's time. She'll do this by touching you first.
Remember to look her in the eye, but not for too long! And make sure you have some good anti-perspirant because women don't like sweaty, smelly guys!
Know what you're talking about. That means be an expert on what you're talking about. Do a bunch of research if you need to. Don't wear anything that is too flashy or stands out too much... women often mistake this for a guy who isn't serious about relationships.
You have to indicate that you're really into her and know that she's just the girl for you without looking like your so soft that you're not worth anything. Stand up for your opinion but never argue or put down her opinion.
Women love to be held up as an example so when you have a natural opportunity let her know that you look up to her for something but don't over do it. Perhpas put in that other women also like what she's talking about and how she's living her life.
Good luck destroying any chance you have with her!
Winning over women is a typical question posed by guys who know a woman they would like to win over.
They already know her and would mainly like to turn a friendship or acquaintance into a real and actual relationship. This is always tricky because she might not have been thinking of you that way until you indicate it and so she will surely have to think about what you're telling her. After all, this is her whole life you two are talking about.
But to win a woman over you have to like what she likes. Strike up conversation about travel, music, dreams, hopes, and great tried and untried restaurants. Avoid things like politics, religion (unless you know she's the same as you) and anything else that could turn into a negative conversation.
When talking to her, keep her comfortable by turning your body away from her slightly so you're not "in her space" and don't ever make physical contact until she let's you know it's time. She'll do this by touching you first.
Remember to look her in the eye, but not for too long! And make sure you have some good anti-perspirant because women don't like sweaty, smelly guys!
Know what you're talking about. That means be an expert on what you're talking about. Do a bunch of research if you need to. Don't wear anything that is too flashy or stands out too much... women often mistake this for a guy who isn't serious about relationships.
You have to indicate that you're really into her and know that she's just the girl for you without looking like your so soft that you're not worth anything. Stand up for your opinion but never argue or put down her opinion.
Women love to be held up as an example so when you have a natural opportunity let her know that you look up to her for something but don't over do it. Perhpas put in that other women also like what she's talking about and how she's living her life.
Good luck destroying any chance you have with her!
Thursday, June 11, 2009
How to Woman
What you can learn at How to Woman...
The fine art of being attractive to women. Can any guy do it or is it just those lucky few who have all the success with women? We've seen those guys, at ease next to a beautiful woman, making her laugh, lightly touching her arm...
What are they doing that the rest of you are not? And can any guy do it?
Yes, any guy can do it. ANY guy. I'll just repeat that one more time... ANY guy.
The Key to Understanding Women
This just might be the most important blog you've ever read. Because I'm going to open doorways so you can see inside the mystery that women used to hold. Once you understand how they work you'll know how to create uncontrollable reactions in women. There is a fundamental key under which ALL women operate. It's called a Compliance Test and it's how a woman finds out ALL her information about a guy.
Here are some of the usual C-tests:
Women test men constantly to determine if they can mentally dismiss them. The more a woman must try to "figure you out" the more attracted she will become. How to create attraction in a woman means not failing these tests she's giving you.
Verbal Pause - A woman will pause in her speech and then see if you try to fill in the empty space to keep the conversation on track and interesting. If you do this you fail her compliance test.
Social Greeting - She greets you as people greet each other and then she waits for you to return the greeting. If you greet in the normal social way you fail the test and she no longer has to "figure you out". Without passing the Compliance Tests you can not create attraction in a woman. Tips for Flirting should always be build on this simple but all encompassing idea.
Body Language - Most guys attempt to portray body language that says they are interested, confident and available to her. But all guys do this... so once you're repeating the movements of all guys she has you figured out. And then all chance of attraction flies out the window.
Personal Space - Guys try to slowly get into the personal space of women over the course of a date or conversation. All guys avoid her personal space when first meeting and then try some "unnoticed" method of closing the space. But guys who are great with women assume they can invade her space at will (he will demand a hug or a kiss on the cheek when meeting) but he also seems uninterested in getting into her personal space. This will intrigue her because most guys want to get in. This will make you seem UNavaliable, on the edge of disinterest and confident.... all traits that are attractive to her.
Manners - If you do what's expected of you... you'll go down in flames. You don't need to ignore all manners but it's a good idea to ignore them with flamboyance from time to time to let her know you're unpredictable.
You get the idea. How to Woman is all about understanding the enigma that is woman.
The fine art of being attractive to women. Can any guy do it or is it just those lucky few who have all the success with women? We've seen those guys, at ease next to a beautiful woman, making her laugh, lightly touching her arm...
What are they doing that the rest of you are not? And can any guy do it?
Yes, any guy can do it. ANY guy. I'll just repeat that one more time... ANY guy.
The Key to Understanding Women
This just might be the most important blog you've ever read. Because I'm going to open doorways so you can see inside the mystery that women used to hold. Once you understand how they work you'll know how to create uncontrollable reactions in women. There is a fundamental key under which ALL women operate. It's called a Compliance Test and it's how a woman finds out ALL her information about a guy.
Within 60 seconds of meeting a guy a woman will have given you a minimum of 5 Compliance Tests... and sometimes as many as 20!!!
Here are some of the usual C-tests:
- Verbal Pause
- Social Greeting
- Body Language
- Personal Space
- Manners
- Conversation Continuance
- Emotional Need
Women test men constantly to determine if they can mentally dismiss them. The more a woman must try to "figure you out" the more attracted she will become. How to create attraction in a woman means not failing these tests she's giving you.
Verbal Pause - A woman will pause in her speech and then see if you try to fill in the empty space to keep the conversation on track and interesting. If you do this you fail her compliance test.
Social Greeting - She greets you as people greet each other and then she waits for you to return the greeting. If you greet in the normal social way you fail the test and she no longer has to "figure you out". Without passing the Compliance Tests you can not create attraction in a woman. Tips for Flirting should always be build on this simple but all encompassing idea.
Body Language - Most guys attempt to portray body language that says they are interested, confident and available to her. But all guys do this... so once you're repeating the movements of all guys she has you figured out. And then all chance of attraction flies out the window.
Personal Space - Guys try to slowly get into the personal space of women over the course of a date or conversation. All guys avoid her personal space when first meeting and then try some "unnoticed" method of closing the space. But guys who are great with women assume they can invade her space at will (he will demand a hug or a kiss on the cheek when meeting) but he also seems uninterested in getting into her personal space. This will intrigue her because most guys want to get in. This will make you seem UNavaliable, on the edge of disinterest and confident.... all traits that are attractive to her.
Manners - If you do what's expected of you... you'll go down in flames. You don't need to ignore all manners but it's a good idea to ignore them with flamboyance from time to time to let her know you're unpredictable.
You get the idea. How to Woman is all about understanding the enigma that is woman.
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